1) Your child deserves to be remembered and to have his memory and too-short life honored, and no one is going to do that like you can. 2) Your surviving children (or spouse or friends) are going to be looking to you to see how a person goes on after…

Don’t look for what you could have done differently, though of course this will be your mind’s number one occupation now. Find and practice a trick to snap your mind back from endless self-blame (a rubber band on the wrist, a deep breath). When you catch yourself desperately searching, have…

The heartbreaking suicide of former Miss USA Cheslie Kryst this weekend should be a wake up call for all of us to talk with our loved ones about suicide. Kryst was a lawyer with an MBA, a TV correspondent, and a beloved pageant queen whose platform was mental health, yet…

I’ve recently joined a spiritual support group for grieving parents, Helping Parents Heal, that is dedicated to convincing its members that our children are with us in spirit. Unlike my other bereaved-parent groups, which are careful not to proselytize or push individual beliefs, HPH is unapologetic about proselytizing. The leaders…